I was feeling very down today. Oh I know, it’s all just stuff but sometimes, it’s difficult to cope with everyday situations even when they are small and insignificant. But these small and insignificant things can ultimately build up and clog the pathways of our life force, our energies, and create feelings of negativity. Anyway, I was feeling at the time that I had fallen off the top of a big hill and rolled down in to a dark valley. Read More
How do you feel when someone says “Can I give you some feedback on that?”
As we live our lives, manage our relationships, work at work or play our chosen professional sport, we are constantly being watched, listened to; we ‘are’ being observed by others. Read More »
Lambda Mi Education and Development has been trading and in existence since 1990. Its speciality has always been in the research, authoring, development and delivery of effective and efficient learning and experiential programmes.
Since 1997/98 Lambda Mi has been active within the personal development field researching and conducting Workshops, Seminars and providing accredited Distance Learning through an accreditation Awarding Body (ASET) in such subjects as EQ Emotional Intelligence, Meditation, Change Management, Leadership, Co-action Coaching, etc. Read More »
Here at Lambda Mi Education and Development, we have been expressing our concerns and opinions regarding the rising stress levels in individuals for a long time. We have been very concerned about rising stresses in society and now extend this in to ill-prepared people who are entering periods of uncertainty, especially regarding their employment status. Read More »
I have to confess to enjoying reading different papers from around the world. Some papers, like the Lancet (in the UK), feature interesting reports in areas that I am interested in. The other day, I was reading the Harvard Business Review that described many important issues about stress, workplace stress, work behaviour, emotional intelligence and a range of other important organisational factors. Read More »
One of the newer breakthroughs in Stress Management deals with and highlights emotional awareness and emotional wisdom. It really is key to understanding stress management and how you can employ EQ awareness and wisdom to take advantage and bring about proactive and beneficial stress relief results.
But what is our Emotional intellect? Read More »
Over a number of years, we here at Lambda Mi and with those associated with us, have come to believe that our physical, our mental health and our general wellbeing, are all improved dramatically through the adaptation and adoption of good EQ emotional intelligence practices.
As I now look back over the various EQ Workshop event reports, and from our own EQ Consulting sessions, it occurred to me that it might be helpful to share some of the results. Read More »
Well, … as I sit here, breathing, thinking
I can appreciate and accept my situation
My life has been written on the fabric of time and within the folds of time Read More »
Consider this ~ if we are not fully ourselves, mindful, truly in the present moment, we stand to miss everything that is important.
I’ve done a lot of stripping away of layers lately. It’s been very liberating. I’ve been peeling away layers of the ego ~ all the accumulated stuff we all gather every day ~ to find who I really am, my authentic self, the ‘real’ self at my core. Read More »
By Steve Tobak
There’s all sorts of rhetoric about what good bosses should and shouldn’t do these days. I guess that’s a good thing. Unfortunately, most of it’s pretty basic, generic fluff that sort of blends together after a while. Read More »
It’s surprising isn’t it what you hear and what you see when you’re out and about in the public’s presence, out and about in the big bad world. I find it such a fascinating pastime, people watching. The trick is to be focused, to have your eyes, ears, even your very being so open to everything around you, to tune in to the ‘collective harmonies’ (and dis-harmonies) as well as all the individual psyches. Well, this is a short but true story and one that happened to and for me only the other day. Read More »
- You will receive a body. You may like it or you may hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.
- You will learn lessons. Because you are now enrolled in full-time education in an informal school Read More »
Have you ever thought and made the link of the signs; of short-cuts across grass verges, of the obvious natural pathways, etc. There is a physics definition that says; Read More »
The Fourteen Emotional Intelligence Traits
The detailed research of Psychologists, Medical Doctors and our own research, has found around fourteen key emotional intelligence traits. These areas have all been observed, tested and discussed during and within our personal and business experience. Read More »
There is so much in life that we just tolerate. Some of it we just have to deal with (taxes, bad weather, traffic). But there is a good portion of “stuff” that we just seem to tolerate even when we don’t have to. We step gingerly around things, overlook irritations in our lives and relationships, and mindlessly accept all the energy drains that are active in these days of stresses and strains. Perhaps we have become so immune, so numbed to these tolerations that we just don’t recognise the negative impact they have on us. Read More »
The below are a series of posts from the LinkedIn website that are from a discussion group involving EQ emotional intelligence.
These discussions highlight a full range of people, cultures, business and career activities. There are of course many, many other posts that highlight the importance and vitality of EQ emotional intelligence.
Lambda Mi provides educational resources and solutions for both individuals and for organisations/companies.
EQ emotional intelligence is a ‘key’ element in any relationship situation be it private, personal or work based. For every member of staff, all Team Leaders, Managers, Directors, from top to bottom and bottom to top, emotional intelligence is crucial if success is to be achieved and optimum performance attained. Read More »
Anger is a strong emotion and one that has so many contributors.
Anger can be raised from both relevant and non-relevant elements, and by this I mean, anger can be Read More »
As I’m writing this I’m sitting looking out over a Golf Course and the weather is … well, it’s stunning. Blue, blue skies, scudding white clouds, verdant green fairways on a Golf Course with yellow flowering gorse and bushes where their new leaf budding branches are wafting on a stiff breeze. In the distance I can see the sea and she too is a deep blue with white horses galloping towards what I know is the golden sandy beach.
So why am I saying these things? To create in your minds eye what I am seeing, to try to impart some of what I’m feeling, my positiveness, right now, Read More »
The world is facing (still) the ramifications of the financial crisis that swept around the globe in 2008/2009. Personal lives, professional lives even leisure lives have all been affected. So in these times of austerity and despondency is it so surprising to learn that Managers and managements are even more important that they were pre-crisis. Managers now have a unique opportunity to enliven lives which are depressed and under strain.
Our working lives take up about a third of our time with another third taken Read More »
A … is for Anger:
We all know what anger is don’t we, what it can do, how it can destroy? But what makes us angry? What fears do we have, can we have? What grief situations have we faced and experienced and what can we expect? What insecurities and situations have hurt us in the past?
You, me, everyone, MUST try to understand, to analyse our ‘own’ anger causes and effects and to find ways, means, processes around by, and which you/we can overcome it/them. Anger probably (will) make you enemies, but enemies don’t necessarily make you angry. Your thoughts however can and do, your emotions can make you angry when that emotion becomes the emotion of ‘anger’. You, I, we, can control anger and when we do everything will be then ‘cool’ and rational. Read More »
Communication in the workplace is always a constant challenge. The pressures to perform amid the chaos of constant change often create an environment that makes a “meeting of the minds” seem like an oxymoron.
Fortunately, research on human emotions and the intricacies of the human brain, has helped to clarify the key communication tools. Paying attention to the emotional subtext will help build a deeper person-to-person form of communication. If you learn to listen from your mission (of communication), you will leap ahead in problem solving. Finally, make sure you know “whose ‘backside’ ‘should/would’ be on the line” when choices, chances or changes are made to ensure that communication is effective and practiced as a two way process and not an assertion of power. Read More »
What is stress?
Stress is the adverse reaction people have to excessive pressures or other types of demands placed upon them.
There is a clear distinction between pressure, which can be a motivating factor, and stress, which can occur when this pressure becomes excessive. Read More »
It’s amazing what you can learn from simple chance meetings isn’t it?
The day was like any other day really, but the weather had changed surprisingly from the grey and drizzle of the morning to a very mild almost warm feeling in the afternoon with blue skies and bright sunshine. Although it’s mid February now there are signs of Spring starting to show. Snow Drops gaily litter the undergrowth of the bushes with their nodding delicate white heads, Daffodils, their green stems growing and reaching for the sky, Catkins, some lime green and fresh whilst others look like small balls of shiny silk, both vibrant in the sunshine. And then there are the birds; wonderful, wonderful birds all so busy now filling the still bare branches with movement and such sweet birdsong. It’s enough, literally, to make ones heart soar. Read More »
Below are some things to make you smile which were sent to me by a dear friend.I hope she recognises her suggestions and doesn’t mind them being shared for and with others. The first section she told me, she used to have printed in the front of her‘Home /School’ information pack that she gave to parents of children due to commence school when they were only four. Read More »
The alphabet is a good way to itemise and list aspects of our lives and how we live them (or perhaps how we may be able to live them). Let’s try here to create a list that may be good for remembering in times of inner reflection.
A … (a) is for adventure: Adventure is the opposite of sitting and watching television. Adventure is the experiences of new things, sights, sounds, feelings, people, environments.
Psychologists say it is possible to measure your happiness.
You will find below five statements for you to consider; of facts, influences and events in your life which will and can affect your happiness or otherwise. Read More »
The Chinese have one of the richest and most colourful traditions in the world and one of their most anticipated celebrations is the Chinese New Year. Read More »
One in five workers fears losing job, a very recent survey suggests
The survey suggests that job insecurity remains rife. This in turn means that EQ emotional intelligence is even more important in these ‘dreadful’ austerity times. Jobs (or the lack of or the danger of losing them) creates enormous stress and strife and we all owe it to ourselves to recognise, accept and understand how we are feeling, acting and reacting to others and what the personal and relationship ramifications can be. Read More »
What Day is Today, does it Matter? : Seven tips for making yourself happier in the next hour.
You really can make yourself happier ~ and this doesn’t have to be a long-term goal or ambition. You can (should, MUST) start right now. In the next hour, check off as many of the following items as possible. Each of these accomplishments will lift your emotions, your positive mood, as will the mere fact that you’ve tackled and achieved some concrete goals. Read More »
Even though these great teachers (listed below) have passed on into who knows where or what, their words still ring and thrive and inspire and are seemingly alive, organic and contemporary and in these words, their essence and wisdom. Read More »
The other evening I was at home relaxing, watching television and an old episode of ‘Airport’ came on. I always enjoyed the series. It always reminds me of my times of travel and excitement and of seeing people bustling on the concourse and feeling my hopes rising and feeling as though my dreams are appearing through the mist of uncertainty and becoming more solid. Read More »
Recently, a cancer victim friend of mine wrote to me of her thoughts and feelings expressed in a short piece of prose. Her piece was called ‘Fighting the Dragons’ and I reproduce it here for you … Read More »
It was a bus journey, plain and simple. I had returned to Manchester from Newcastle to visit with relatives in Oldham. Catching the number 83 bus on Oldham Street near to Piccadilly Square was its usual array of watching and seeing strange characters (as in every city). It was early afternoon and already the drunks lurched in to doorways to escape the chilling wind, each struggling to light up their roll-up cigarettes, young hoodies hanging around outside the game and slot machine parlours, their colourful language along with hawking and spitting incessantly totally devoid of any respect for the elderly women walking by, taxi cabs honking horns whilst careering around corners too quickly, people of all shapes and sizes milling, jostling, bumping, forcing their way through throngs of waiting people in bus queues, sheltering from the spattering of rain blown by the chilling wind. Read More »
This, longer than average, message could be very important to you.
I urge you to read it all.
“Divine intervention?” she asked Read More »
What is stress?
Stress is the adverse reaction that people have to excessive pressures or other types of demands placed upon them. There is a clear distinction between pressure, which can be a motivating factor, and stress, which can occur when this pressure becomes excessive. Read More »
As we have discussed in previous blogs, emotional intelligence is a set of disciplines, a set of protocols, and a set of principles.
Emotional intelligence can be listed having a number of different headings depending on who you speak to but, the basis for EQ comprise;
- Self-awareness and management
- Relationship-awareness and management
- Social skills
- Empathy and sympathy
To be aware of ourselves, how we feel in any given moment, how Read More »
What is work-related stress?
It’s well recognised that stress at work is a massive problem. Any stress can reduce employee well-being and it’s well recognised (and accepted) that excessive or sustained work pressure can lead to stress. Occupational stress poses a risk to most businesses and compensation payments for stress are increasing. It’s important to meet this modern day challenge by dealing with excessive and long-term causes of stress. Absence management surveys show that Read More »
Stress, as ‘everyone’ should realise, is a collective term, incorporating physical, psychological and physiological effects in response to an undesirable situation.
Mild stress can result from missing the bus to standing in a long line at the shop or even getting a parking ticket. But stress can also be severe.
Did you know the most stressful human pastimes are (1) moving house, (2) retiring from work (3) changing / losing jobs, or (4) moving to a new country? Read More »
I had had a long day. I was tired and just wanting the day to be over.
Getting up and setting off early I was intent on travelling from Oldham to Whitley Bay via Newcastle. For those of you not knowing northern England, Oldham is about 10 miles north of Manchester in northwestern England and Whitley Bay is up high on the north east coast near to Newcastle Upon Tyne. The journey was to consist of a bus, a train and a metro train and then the same in reverse. Total travel time? Read More »
World Mental Health Day ~ October 10th 2010, did anyone hear of this?
I didn’t think so. But it is a very important subject to be mindful about.
How sad though is it that when we talk of Mental Health we immediately think of mental illness, mental maladies, insanity, et al. In actual fact, mental health is just as important as our physical health but it has such bad press that virtually everyone steers clear of it. Read More »
This is an extract from what is mistakenly attributed to Nelson Mandela, as part of his inauguration speech. It was actually written by Marianne Williamson.
We use it now as an illustration of emotional intelligence, not alluding any reference to God or religion, but from Read More »
I am here sitting in a Doctors Waiting Room, waiting my turn to go and knock quietly and politely on a plain, clean Doctors Surgery door then to be beckoned inside for my prearranged appointment. I don’t feel unwell, just here for a Consult and know that these places are not the healthiest of places, just like Hospitals, so the sooner I’m out the better.
It’s a typical scene being played out before me and Read More »
It’s a hot day here in Porto and I am engaged in one of my favourite pastimes, people watching. Sitting, waiting, seeing, watching and breathing. A street corner café with the smell of fresh coffee wafting on a warm breeze under full leaved young Maple trees and softly billowing coloured canopies. A cooling drink in hand. The world is passing by with an accompaniment of sounds ~ a cacophony of noise, the drone and then staccato of drilling from the construction site nearby, traffic and horns blaring, trams screeching then grumbling on hot steel tracks and every so often Read More »
It’s been a year now since my departure from Panama, the country I had relocated to nearly 4 years ago. I left under what I can only describe as horrendous emotionality, soul and spirit destroying emotionality. I won’t go in to detail but what I will say was that the prequel and the sequel to leaving was truly both life threatening and Read More »
Emotional Intelligence (EI) and Teaching
The idea of Emotional Intelligence is a growing and developing one that is applicable across EVERY human activity and for all ages from the cradle to the grave.
For instance, EI is increasingly becoming very important within the Care and Medical Sectors to engage with both the patient/client and the Carer/Doctor/Practitioner. Having due regard for and with someone else’s emotions is something we should all aspire to AND demand. Read More »
Attention Managers, Coaches and Trainers:
No one wants emotional intelligence training!
No, you are not going to see a long line of people waiting to get in to attend a program that is advertised as Emotional Intelligence training or education program.
Nobody wants Emotional Intelligence training; they want solutions to “people problems.”
Whether you are a manager, a Director, a team leader, HR, a coach or a client, understanding the real issue brings great opportunity.
Let’s look at both the problem and the opportunity for everyone. Read More »
What is transactional conscious streaming (TCS)?
It is the process whereby we can facilitate the flow and conversion of the ideas, emotions, feelings, impressions, imagination and those grey area contents of the mind, heart, spirit and soul that we all have and experience from time to time and then to channel it in to a form of communicating those personal issues with others. But this type of ‘streaming’ is not, and should not, be restricted to just conscious streaming; it also includes sub-conscious streaming and even un-conscious streaming.
Let’s for a moment discuss these different meanings and states of being.