A … is for Anger:
We all know what anger is don’t we, what it can do, how it can destroy? But what makes us angry? What fears do we have, can we have? What grief situations have we faced and experienced and what can we expect? What insecurities and situations have hurt us in the past?
You, me, everyone, MUST try to understand, to analyse our ‘own’ anger causes and effects and to find ways, means, processes around by, and which you/we can overcome it/them. Anger probably (will) make you enemies, but enemies don’t necessarily make you angry. Your thoughts however can and do, your emotions can make you angry when that emotion becomes the emotion of ‘anger’. You, I, we, can control anger and when we do everything will be then ‘cool’ and rational.
B … is for Boredom:
Are you bored and in the doldrums, restless, anxious, disconnected even? The simple cure may be curiosity. Try to do something new. Consider something new. Like learning to dance, to snowboard, to paint, to sing, to juggle, to do or have something new in your thoughts, in your mind, in your life, to create “interest”.
Just ask a child for their advice. Take it. Pretend that today is the last day of your life, because it could very well be, or alternatively, it can be and should be, the first day of the rest of your life. Spring is in the air, there is sunshine ~ even when it is grey and cold and damp; there are blue skies ~ even underneath grey or darker cloud cover, the countryside beckons ~ even when in the towns and city urban sprawls, there are wide-open spaces and fresh air ~ even in the confines of space restricted dingy offices and workplaces. Turn off the television, tune in to life, where a new and vibrant and interesting life awaits you.
C … is for criticism:
Criticism tells you everything you need to know about yourself, “so leesten very carefully, I shall only say ziess only once”. The faults you point out in others are very often your own in disguise. The way you speak about the world is the way the world will speak about you. How can life ever look up if you keep putting everyone down?
D … is for depression:
If you think you might be depressed, the bravest thing you can do is to seek professional help. The shame would be for you to miss out on life. Talk to your doctor. Find a therapist you can trust and relate to. Confide in your friends. Exercise. Eat healthily. Rest. Meditate. Don’t self-medicate. Always remember, this feeling, this ‘depression’ can and does pass.
E ... is for Ego:
To truly live, you should live wholly, to live not only for yourself but to live for others as well. Live to serve your best interests, live to serve someone else. The less it is all about you, the more will come to you. The only thing coming between you and happiness is your ego. Let it go
F … is for Fear:
Fear holds you back. To get over it, you need to get into it. Are you scared of heights? Go jump from a plane. Are you scared of spiders? Go and seek one out and pick it up. Are you scared of clowns? Paint your face, be a clown. It won’t be easy, but life will get easier after you do these ‘fear’ confronting things, and very much less frightening.
G … is for Greed:
Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. Values, not valuables, are what define us. Greed may make our bank balance and bellies grow, but it shrinks our soul. Ask yourself how much is enough, and how much is too much? Sometimes the things that are supposed to make us happy just don’t.
H … is for Hate:
If you begin to feel hate, stop it, NOW. It’s a lethal emotion. And it will take you places you don’t want to go. So make peace with yourself first and foremost. Then make peace with the world (and everyone in it). Practice positive mind control. Let go of resentment, envy, jealousy, hurt and anger. Face down your fears, and don’t feed the fire for it will surely consume you.
I … is for Insecurity:
Insecurity can and often does steal our lives. But it can be overcome. First, ask yourself: “who is saying the hurtful things”? You may discover that the voice inside your mind is your own. So keep telling yourself that you are loving and loveable, of value, worthy and worthwhile and wonderful. Soon others will, too.
J … is for Jealousy:
Jealousy ALWAYS kills the love it seeks to protect. It can remind you of who and why you love ~ but it can and does bring with it severe pain, anxiety and heartbreak. To save your relationship, lose your jealousy. This really isn’t easy ~ but it can be done. It takes a lot of time and a great deal of effort, truthfulness and trust, patience and perseverance, reality checks and reassurance. It’s a labour of love. Jealousy is a snake: cut off its head, and KILL IT.
K … is for Karma:
Karma is Sanskrit for ‘deed’ or ‘act’. It is the law of cause and effect, part of the Buddhist cycle of past, present and future. Whether your karma is good or bad depends on your intentions. Act with a pure heart and your karma will be kinder.
L … is for Liar:
Lies never lie still. They toss and turn inside us, trying to escape, tearing us away from our own deepest truth. If you lie, ask yourself: ‘Why?’
Lies often cover our deepest fears of being discovered, found out, being unmasked; of being seen for who we really are. To be all you can be, tell the truth. It might hurt at first to admit, but it will truly set you free.
M … is for mood:
Many things can cause moods and for moods to swing. Drink. Drugs. Diet. Stress. To find balance, we need to go back to basics. Sleep well, eat healthily, exercise, and choose your thoughts carefully. Where your thoughts go, your moods will surely follow.
N … is for negativity:
Life looks the way you look at it. A negative perspective paints a bleaker universe. Always remember that your outlook will be your outcome. A few small changes can make a huge difference. For instance, try saying ‘Yes’ to every question (within reason). You’ll discover new places, meet new people and live a happier and richer life.
O … is for Overwhelmed:
When things get on top of you, it’s time to get on top of things.
Stop for a moment. Make a list. Identify your priorities. Prioritise your priorities. Be realistic about what is achievable. Estimate the time it will take. Double it. Then start at the top of the list and work your way down. Do one thing at a time.
P … is for Perfectionism:
Perfection is a kind of paralysis. The tighter you hold on to something, the more it will hold you back. Often the best way to improve something is to let it go. So do the best that you possibly can, finish it and relax. It will be better than you think.
Q … is for Quit:
To give up (as a notion) is to give in to the voice that says: ‘It doesn’t matter.’ It does.
You know it does. We know it does. Sometimes, the only thing we have to beat is our desire to give up. If you can overcome this you can overcome anything.
Never give up on your dreams. Never give up on you. Never give up. Never. Ever … EVER.
R … is for Regret:
Stuff happens. But it doesn’t need to keep happening.
Regret keeps us living in the past, dragging us backwards, holding us back. We all need to get over it, to get into the moment, to get in to the ‘now’. Empty your mind, stop looking over your shoulder, stop negative reminiscences, stop ‘the grass is greener’ sort of thoughts, and let go of your thoughts, to just be. Be forgiving. Be loving. Be grateful. Let the past be past not your ‘now’ or your future.
S … is for STRESS:
Insomnia. Heartache. Anxiety. Depression, etc, etc, etc. Stress and stress related illnesses are the biggest killers in our society today and for our relationships. Stress is a voracious feeder and not only a feeder but also a cannibalistic feeder.
The cost of stress is never worth the salary that demands it. When designing your work life, make sure that you should know that your life works.
Remember the importance of holistic (body AND mind) relaxation; of meditation, of exercise and of moderation for everything, which shall and does release the tension. Drink, drugs and junk food don’t. So unwind your mind. A little stress is healthy; too much can kill you and kills hundreds of thousands each year in the UK alone. STRESS ~ deal with it before you snap and destroy yourself.
T … is for Temptation:
Temptation has a habit of growing on you … watch out for temptation is about, just ask those who have been caught and punished.
U … is for Uncertainty:
There are two things in life that are certain ~ and it’s not “death and taxes”. One of the things certain in life is ~ nothing is certain. The best way to deal with uncertainty is one step at a time. You can never know which way things will fall. But if your life is in balance, you will find surety and firmness for your feet.
V … is for Victim:
We can’t always control what happens in life, but we can control the way we respond. This means eliminating self-pity, blame and victimhood. Bad things happen to good people ~ but being the victim really can and does steal your life, your future, your potential.
W … is for Worry:
Worries are the thoughts in your brain, which are in too much of a hurry. Get on top of it, get over yourself. Your thoughts are not facts and are not fixed. Like clouds, they will pass in the solar winds. Let them go. Let them be.
X … is for Xenophobia:
Xenophobia is such an ugly word.
Xeno means foreigner.
Phobia means fear.
Together they mean racism, bigotry, intolerance, injustice. Yet, if we embrace the differences in this world, the world looks different. More interesting = more rewarding.
Y … is for YOU:
We all have our downside, our shadows, our dark recesses. Embrace them. Admitting our weaknesses is the first step in regaining our strength. Shining light on and in to our darkness is the beginning of enlightenment.
Z … is for ZEN:
Zen is a state of being.
Of balance in your being and in your life.
Zen is an Eastern philosophy but has been shown and proven to bring balance.
Live right and everything will be in balance.
Sit in stillness and silence.
Turn your mind inward, explore, discover, resolve and develop.
Many thanks to Matthew Johnstone – author